tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7920966143386675040.post5740657418562286666..comments2023-12-11T22:30:33.627-08:00Comments on Autistic Dad: Beware the grief farmersAutistic Dadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17112070144933244786noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7920966143386675040.post-78367104949623284712011-11-08T10:29:49.395-08:002011-11-08T10:29:49.395-08:00Yes, the grief for what never was, the dream of wh...Yes, the grief for what never was, the dream of what might have been. Our grief over our unrealized expectations. And then there's that tricky balancing act of acceptance while doing all one can to help one's child progress.Ariane Zurcherhttp://www.emmashopebook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7920966143386675040.post-22272125667156517972011-10-29T03:15:47.286-07:002011-10-29T03:15:47.286-07:00Thought provoking stuff Gordon and, while I haven&...Thought provoking stuff Gordon and, while I haven't perhaps thought about it in the same way, I agree.<br /><br />The grief farmers are revolting. I find myself reacting similarly to way I did to the MMR hoo-ha in rejecting the idea that a child dead of measles is preferable to one alive but autistic. <br /><br />The process of adjusting to life after bereavement and adjusting to life after an autistic diagnosis are remarkably similar - although with understandably different nuance and intensity. Perhaps we need a different word for both apart from grief...<br /><br />My process of grief over the diagnosis needed me to end up somewhere where an Aspie son means simply that things are different but not in any way disadvantaged, disabled or otherwise less than they were. <br /><br />I like this http://bundance.blogspot.com/2007/09/destination-unknown.html way of looking at it.Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09274237523956714761noreply@blogger.com